After taking a closer look at relationships around me, I have come to believe that time is not a yardstick for love. There are people who develop a sense of belongingness very early in the courtship while there are some others who remain emotionally distant even after prolonged togetherness. You can’t tell that two people are into each other by the number of years they have been together for. Many long-term relationships end up being the cause of emotional voids that can’t be filled without a real effort. More than half of the young population today is dealing with the emotional baggage from their past relationships, in the wake of which, they have abandoned happiness.
Did you ever give it a thought? Why these young souls who are supposed to be teeming with life and happiness are losing their crucial years repenting over their bad decisions? You are at the best place to answer this as you have been there too, if not today, definitely at some point in your past. As much as I have understood relationships and life, I feel stuck when it comes to finding the roadblocks to a happy fairy tale romance. But these millions of love tales around the world have something in common, that could be the possible reason for the recurring heartbreaks and disappointment.
“ I expected her to be the best part of my life.”
“No matter how much efforts I show, I get nothing in return.”
“I wish, I expected lesser from him.”
“ All I expect is his genuine care and attention.”
Expectations. Since the very beginning of life, we have been sheltering unreasonable expectations in our hearts. This everlasting process began at home when we made an extravagant demand to our parents, and they nurtured it out of love. So, the next time we found something out of our reach, we expected them to make it accessible to us. In no time, these expectations slipped into our daily lifestyle and crippled our inner strength.
But, am I projecting expectations in a bad light here? Absolutely Not. I am just putting my sincere effort into unmasking our inner devil that is the foremost obstruction in our fairytale romance. Yes, it is not at all wrong to expect. Expect, if your inner self allows you to. However, before untying the bundle of expectation before the world, ask yourself- Have you lived up to the expectations of your 5-year old self?
I clearly remember my expectations as a 5-year old kid, and when I correlate it to my present, I find a considerable variation. My dreams as a 5-year-old were bizarre. I wanted to own the moon one day or climb up to the highest peak and build a home over there. Though the aspirations I had at the tender age of 5, don’t count today, I haven’t covered even half of the journey I should have, being a 26-year-old. I feel that I still owe a lot to my inner child whose dreams were aspiring enough to give me a reason to keep going.
This is a plain story that I have kept repeating in my head for years, and I tell it over and over to myself and to every single youngster who expects their partner to give them a life, straight out of a fairytale. It is never too late to realise that no one in this world can make up for your unrealised dreams and expectations, and if anyone can initiate the change, it is only you.